Tips for helping kids manage anger (from the Child Mind Institute):
Stay calm. Staying in control of your own emotions can model good behavior and avoid escalating the situation.
Avoid triggers. If you notice regular meltdowns, try to avoid them before they start. Give a time warning ("Bedtime is in 10 minutes), break down tasks into smaller directions and talk about situations before they occur and avoid the feeling of losing control.
Praise appropriate behavior. Once a kid calms down, let him or her know that you appreciate that hard work. If he or she tries to solve the problem that caused the anger, give praise for those efforts too.
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